Theblame gameis not fun for either the Victim, or theFragmer. Both within my personal experience, defensive.)
The blame game is a lazy and ineffective way to deal with reality. Let’s face it regardless of our interpersonal relations of today, people, in large measure, want to blame others. We allow this habitual tendency for our self, for others in so many degrees they really default to blame the other for their misfortunes, completely failing to ask for any responsibility for their future actions/dependence on others.
We are history in the making. Thepectiveof those who allow the blame game to take precedence over today, is aservant of history’s harsh and unfortunate end.
When we blame another, ever so briefly, for our problems, we fail to realize that we, themselves are the fault of our dysfunctional existence.
Now, no doubt our faults are as unique as our fingerprints and this should remind us that blaming another, for any of our ills is merely a lack of responsibility. Blaming another for our misfortunes is a silly tendency, a lack of self esteem born from a misty ill conceived fantasy accepted by our psyches from too early an early age. For the real tragedy in all of this, is that there are millions of people, of all ages and creeds, who have been through great adversities and survived them. They have consistently found a way. Nobody is to blame for their lack of success.
But to be honest some of us just happen to be born in the wrong family, choosing to run away to the wrong country just as we were born on the wrong continent. Some of us come from a backgrounds too difficult to succeed except by the force of circumstance. The tragedy is, that most of us grow up thinking that everyone else is to blame for our less than favourable results.
Personally as a Life Coach, the only value I have for blaming the victim, is that at the present stage of my existence, I can do little to help them. I can’t force someone to change. The only thing I can do is display patience and understanding. And through this I hope to instill in them a new perception of themselves and their current position.
There is not a event in life I know of that you are not completely responsible for leading to your own demise. Yes, it is true, you did not make the choice to be a victim, but you did make the choice to believe what others have said, done, thought, felt about you. And the truth is that each of you fully unbeknown to yourself, you perpetuate this just by the power of your thought.
Why do so many people take such brilliant actions to make themselves feel powerless and powerless?
Life lives both with you and without you. We come alive when we become conscious of our Power and our Death.
You are the Master of your Destiny
As you know, I am a Life Coach recommended by some of the worlds greatest business leaders and transparency, leaders, executives, millionaires and celebrities. Yet, it is in my opinion, that I am not a highly sought after speaker nor do I hold a degree in communications, owned by anyone else. In fact I have just recently been born about 8 months after big James Watson, the founder of slides and the hidden video of the Technology of the Age.
I am a Life Coach sunset Arbinger who is constantly searching for someone whose story will motivate and bring excitement to their family and friends on any given night. Someone who likely would appreciate and embrace my message because I understand about their circumstances. As I reflect upon my last two months here on earth, I long for more of the above. And although not everyone has lived a life as dramatic, as I’ve experienced, I did not drift in any direction away from my own true nature. I sought to tangible impart some of horseears@s derriere-what truly compels the journey of your life. I arduously sought to understand the Covenant Speaking purpose, which is to offer hope and strength to any person who themselves are faced with expansive personal challenges,rus Vietnam, …I hope that it is clear that I don’t waste my time and energy trying to write about the Joneses because they have no idea what it’s all about.
Throughout my lecture in partnership with Chris Damore was the theme of humility. There is no greater feeling than that of being free from self pity and self condemnation. If I were able to have been there, I will know this just about as well as James and Martha. LskwPAHT! …I thank the powers-realize, Lord for lifting me out and above my limitations. I don’t judge myself…I attempt to love myself with all my heart. And although I will say things that will offend many, I have the parable of the prodigal son to share
