Why are there barriers and fences to our Greatness? Why do we have to keep on our guard what we can accept and what we cannot? I know that some of things we have seen and experienced in the past do not leave a bad taste so much as we would like to put it. Let us broaden the scope of these negative experiences and how we might dissolve them. Let us make others feel their presence. I am talking of physical manifestations. Lets take that to the next step, the befriending/ bitten by the dilemma bug. When unexpected things happen, the senses rarely fail us and often they give us confirmation that something is not OK. Our burden is to recognize that we have prejudices and challenges that we simply don’t like. These unfavorable circumstances force us to be human.
Accepting the fact that we have these negative coping tools in the face of call for action is familiar and not at all certain that we wish to pursue it. Politicians’ opinions, political meetings, what we experience in the world, what we read and listen to, all of these influence how we think, from which directions, into which aisle, and what we feel compelled to vote for or against. Most of us are cleared about what we dislike and we have beliefs and perceptions of how these phenomenon should be.
We know that life and death choices can be made based on our feelings alone and without thinking. Because of that knowing and feeling, certain reactions to events “just happen” and thoughts and Religious/ Political opinions dictate the conversations that we have with other people and our willingness to go along with certain views and actions. This does not mean that our attitudes are wrong. It simply means that we have walked the path that we think is ours to walk. The reality is, we also have a system of self so-called intellectual nature that gravitates to what it knows, which as a result often produces counter choices and oddly actions. These choices become ours as it produces them.
From his book “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself,” Dr. Alexander Maclaren suggests to beware of what some call “negative:” arguments and review this behavior with the idea not to be the so-called “victim” or “victimizer.” Often it is about being the victim and the victimizer who are often two sides of the same coin. Some average people or just an English person can have a taste or experience of the negative, but very seldom realize that it is a negative to have uncalled for responses such as anger, rage, fear, agony, and despair.
I am not suggesting for a moment that these emotions and attitudes won’t be present because they are ingrained in us, obviously so. I am using why we feel the way we feel as part of the conversation simply to point out the natural tendency based on tradition and life as we will find ourselves; “a photocopy of what happened to us.” The younger generations have ‘no clue” about the usual emotional guidance system and often react entirely to what their parents tell them. I tell my son that I will never forget my first television appearance with my young cousin. His father came and said, “If you want to be as good as your father, you have to get really good. He is sorry for everything. If you don’t want to be as good, I am sorry. Be like your father.” He never forgot, and my son, same with me, got really good now.
Some events and experiences in our life are like a ripening fruit that will not ripen and remain as it is unless we plant, tend, and water it. The woman came in the house and asked her husband to take her to her “mommy’s” house and show her how she became a mother. The father had taken her to the “fsweet home.” Although this was an enormous novelty, her son did not question why he had to be there or why he was being taken. It was the most wonderful experience for me in my life and is forever linked to this event.
