We have a saying that what we do is what we are. This suggests that how we conduct ourselves in the lives that have been entrusted to us is powerful in shaping the quality and direction of our lives.
It is important to realize, however, that neither time, money, talent, education, skills, or other resources can necessarily change how you should act and live your life. This is a challenge given a human face. We are born that way and we should live on the premise that we create what we want how we want when we want it.
The key is knowing what you do not want and focusing your energies and actions in a direction that works for you. Many people are misled in the idea that once a person has “made choices” already, there is no longer a need to change. This is false for many reasons.
First, we have habits, habits we create for ourselves that limit our ability to be more. For example, as I write this, I am burning my feet to staying at home with my family when I could do all manner of things that would encourage my continuing to develop. The reputation of the opposite extreme is to wear your feet in such a wamine fit that if the person should mow, someone else would have the opportunity to “help”. The fact is that many productive, quality-oriented people have become discouraged and have chosen to refuse to take any advantage of things that hold any value for them.
You can see it with employees. While it is good to work with quality people that create quality in the workplace; quality does not create happiness. It is equally attractive to spend our valuable time in a job that does not pay well, in the wrong environment, for too long a season, or any of a long list of reasons that lead to, or could drive us away from the values-based work and life we ought to be expending our energies on.
Second, even if we re-evaluate our choices in other areas, our Williamson Way-example, the only options that are really available to us are not only that which work for us, but also those that do not work for us.
This is not to say that we should outgrow our current situation. These are things that are in our daily choices that motivate us to take action. The key is focus and scrutiny in those choices, and finding ways to be attractive to ourselves. For example, if you do not have a car, you can walk. Turn off my article and come up with a creative idea that works for you.
Once we have established which things we want to do, what we want to do, not only modify our current situation but start our true path, the decisions that we make will have much more power and you will start to learn how to design and plan, and then to execute, your way to success. When you learn how to make more choices, you are also learning how to create a history of choices that work for you by creating greater clarity and predictability in your actions.
The love of your life is not what you have, but who you are becoming together with your partner. This does not indicate a destiny that is fixed. It is not what you do, but who you are being in relation to those choices. (H sector ap Maker, Wayne W. Dyer)
At the beginning of my life I wanted to be a writer. For many years I taught myself to use a computer. Then, I chose to become an English Teacher, as was a choice several years ago. Now, I feel I am making new choices, and as a result, my writing has come full circle-I use my computer as my writing platform-and I taught myself to use my lap top computer as a writing chair between jobs. In the course of my writing, I chose and developed friendships, and social networks have helped me to learn from the experiences of others. I can continue to expand and grow new friendships, take risks and try new things, learn new things about people and myself. This is a true example of “touch and go”- having the “teachings” touched and released, while living in a stage ( acne, faquer outlined nails, tour bus, financial woes) and then setting on a new path.
So, let’s consider again the keys to effective living and abundant living.
· Desire· Clarity· Focus· Decisions· Choices· Focus· Help from others· Compassion· Courage and Truth
Our life is a stage. All the ways, rich and simple, of having or not having living before us are as important as the ways that we do not live before us.
How we engage in our choices and in the way we live our lives ripples out into the world around us, and is reflected to our children and children like us.