A difficult relationship is one of the most stressful condition a person can have. A relationship can be harmonious yet still be quite stressful and the anxiety is often overwhelming. This is because a relationship is a place where our emotions are shared, our hopes and fears are shared as are our personal needs. Some of us struggle to make decisions because our emotions are so strong. This is often a misunderstanding of who we are and has a lot to do with our team chemistry.
When we interact with certain people, we can be taking on more than we can bear. When we desire what they have, we will impose our opinions upon them and become very demanding. This can be frustrating to both parties as there will be times when our demands are not received. You can feel as a person that things are out of balance and nothing can be accomplished. All of your efforts are drained when you have to turn to bargaining rather than saying yes or no.
With a unique combination of differences and part withholds, not only does our ability to win cause us stress but our ability to have harmony and understanding. We all desire to be accepted, we want to know that our opinions and desires are heard and understood; we want to have value. These very same feelings are sometimes associated when we have selfish desires. We have to trust that they are fulfilled and we will be able to release disappointments and cope with the situations of not having them fulfilled. These feelings will not go away no matter what we do to change something. It is natural that we must trust our feelings. Don’t worry if you do not feel accepted, request that your needs be heard and accepted. Let us get into the activity of comparing.
Try a simple act of comparison. An important part of the law of relativity, we compare the things we want, such as buying a new car or house; we want to be treated well and appreciated. These compare statements will readily guide you to where are you. Next, you can try to ask your feelings of the opposite. Is the car or house similar to something else? Do they have the qualities that you have in another thing? You can compare what you want and what you need. As before, the reaction or reciprocated needs to be realized.
I have used this daily exercise in my life to approach my feelings and discussing my wants and needs with others. This process really invigorates me in our treatment of others. It does not have to be a relationship. You can do it with your children, family members and friends. I am not suggesting that pressure be placed on these people. For most, they want to be accepted and to be loved. This is the beginning of living with others.
Next you can also understand and accept feelings of others. It helps frequently to use a journal and monitor your everyday thoughts. We often compare and relate to others, which is only natural. Yet it is not good in developing a relationship and caring for each other. You need to step outside your ego and analyze the similarities and differences, or the midpoints of your relation with others. Be sure to monitor your thoughts about others and compare them.
As we approach and begin to understand others, it is important to monitor feelings to facilitate living with them. We are more successful, much healthier, and receive deep satisfaction from our relationships if we approach each one with understanding of ourselves.
Our feelings are related to our thoughts and action we control. Its like a butterfly rising to the surface of a warm spring. The two are never in conflict; belief and thought come together and create harmony. If you need to talk to someone, take a moment at our need for communication and let them know you seek an answer. That smile on their face and the words you exchanged in understanding is the nurturing of a friendship, the fulfillment of a relationship. The emotions you go through when you learn something new, the humor you share, the passion you share are all elements of a successful relationship.
Relationships are the most important constraint in our blessing. It is important to examine and discover if what you are presently doing is at a profit or expense to you but the obtained results of having to add on another activity. Material equality alone is not a guarantee of spiritual passion. In relationships money is never a guarantee of commitment. When you dare to accept defeat, your mind opens. You begin to accept change without Fellowship. You will be able to allow your thoughts and emotions to embrace and accept things as they are without being defeated. The power of your thoughts and emotions become a magnet which draws to you anything you like.
Having faith in a source of power inside of you, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob of the Bible is the simplest. The power in yourself is the source of the power in others. We generally measure ourselves by other people, but never by ourselves.
