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How to Find Personal Meaningful Purpose

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I’m breathing a sigh of relief. I know that, in time, all of the little things of life will add up-all the little tasks that only took minutes in the end. It’s all about perspective here. Really, the most important thing in life is to be happy, and I don’t mean only happy during challenges, but really happy amidst everything. Maybe that’s why we’re perfect balance and the key to fulfilment lies in this personal tenet.

It’s not so much what we do, as it is who we do it with. Of course, even thinking about what we do-where we go, who we visit, who we spend time with, how we love each other-is much more than a little thing in and of itself. But there’s definitely more to life than simply existing, and who you are is as significant a motivator as anything you may combine doing with it. What is the importance of what you do for yourself, your family and/or others? Perhaps when I get to a particular point in development I’ll decide that my purpose is to actually be a better parent, and then not only I, but my children will be able to relate and be inspired to learn.

It’s not about adhering to the label – rather it’s about seeing how that label can be extended to others, and inside ourselves, in a way that brings our happiness. And it is very interesting to watch how I get better at turning my negative perspective into motivating greatness, wherever that observation takes me.

This provides me with a nice contrast to my alternative label-someone in some important aspect of life. I’ll call them Sugar or Love. She’s gonna be ugly when she grows up, you’re gonna hear all about it, he’s gonna fall apart and nobody likes him/her. We all hear it, I find that half the time people don’t even hear it. It’s generally accepted that “Love is the most powerful motivation of them all.” That’s interesting.

I’m interested in all of the little differences that add up. It’s not so much what I do with my life, as much as what happens to me when I’m not managing my routine. Let me take an example.

For me to do things well, take care of myself and enjoy a little bit of fulfillment, I’ve been focused on making sure I’d do it tomorrow, and the more effort I put in at the beginning of the day, things generally just flow from there. Back when it was a struggle to get up in the morning, I sometimes let myself go crazy trying to figure out what I was going to taste for my coffee today. Seriously, I’ll get very good at coming up with excuses not to even get out of bed, but in the end, it’s all about how it goes, and how I choose to react to it that ultimately releases control and puts things into perspective.

Like the last time we went to the beach, I made it so that I got to decide if I was going to be bothered by the hot sun, or just keep my beach-version sunglasses on for dear life. It wasn’t so much about the physical act of getting up, I liked the sound of the waves at aburl and the water charges with my body, it was a much more spiritual…feeling, even if it was just a quick snapshot. The ability to let go of expectation, that’s what I mean.

Well, I want to take this a step further. I want to put myself directly in a state by getting out of bed. That’s why at an early age I decided it would be way more exciting to sleep early and go out for a walk rather than stay up with snooze after snooze. “But you’ll forget, you haven’t eaten anything for a few hours,” is the justifying voice that keeps you unsettled, scared, and laying low.

It’s not just you. Think about it, just how motivated are we when spending time with family and friends. The struggle to find something to say, and the desire to stop right now before settling down into conversation melds in an awkward silence. I’m curious, were I being myself during that moment, or not stepping out of that high energy environment to take on something new and exciting? I know I can be myself by not being afraid to take a chance.

It takes things to be in balance when I’m centered, strong and backed by confidence. That sense of accomplishment often inspires me and gives me a passion for what I’m doing to continue making those little changes and fornication that are important in building that integrity and depth of relationship. We can’t have it all and we would never have it all. All we can do is Bhbsite.

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