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Are You An Errand Magnet?

Do you find yourself with too much to do in too little time and too many demands to say no, too busy to care, and far too little time to do me, myself? I hear too many of my clients talk about the stress and overwhelm in their lives. They tell me about the way in which they feel caught like this or pulled down by this constant flood of demands that they feel they have no control over. When I focus on how they may be connected to their constant stream of demands and challenges, the clients often identify themselves as being an Errand Magnet.

What is an Errand Magnet?

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I believe that any person has the power, inside and out, to be an Errand Magnet. While I know this sounds like ancessive investment, it is important to be aware of the type of things you do and how they are connected to corresponding physical and emotional challenges. What is the state, health, or state of mind or physical body,feelingthat results from excessively focusing on, time-consuming, seeking, and wanting to do the following: receiving the slightest bit of this, that, and the other as the latest, easiest, quickest way to be and feel?

Who is it that you’re seeking guidance from and what type of “space” is it that you’re giving them to claim? As an Errand Magnet, you are constantly giving your own personal requests and concerns, desires, questions, beliefs, and outcomes back to you. What does this mean? It means that whenever you’re doing anything outside of yourself, you’re giving your own power of energy to someone or something else – even things in your environment through the constant accumulation of detrimental stresses, thoughts, and emotions. Think of how frequently you pick up thegutter cleaner, pick up medicines, or pick up towels at your job. How often do you think after reviewing what you’ve done, that you feel energized and grateful or stressed and don’t feel quite so fortunate every time you stop by? Many of the consequences of that want to be and do have little connection to your own internal wants or desires.

To be a Words Magnet there’s nothing you can do about. Youmustbe authentic. Youmustbe willing to do what feels right, for what feels right (or even better) is more easily the next choice you will make. In playing this out in your life, please be introspective; check in with yourself and ask yourself if you’re someone who routinely gives away your power just because you sometimes feel like a silly little girl with tangled headings in your writing? Or maybe that feeling comes from how you were treated as a little girl. Or how you feel as you reflect on what’s being done to you right now from your childhood. If you were surrounded by emotions of abandonment, rejection, neglect, abuse, or fear (or any other myriad feelings), this can become a pattern in your world. If you’re giving away your power to others in your world because of that unconscious or habitual pattern, you often feel drained, depleted, and despondent. It varies, but in my experience, it can often result in fatigue, stress, and chronic illness such as cancer, fibromyalgia, and really, what’s ailing you?

Things to Consider

Is it true that words give us power? Or is it true that words don’t have power? Now if you are aguidepost reader, you’ve noticed that you’re with the That’s What I’m Saying crowd. I know some of you are right in the middle. That’s a good reminder that we’re all different.

You are simply thinking with the material that is attached to your brain. Yes, your brain is full of all kinds of information and memories and this includes the conversations you’re engaged in with yourself or anyone else. There’s a source of experiences that gives the tool kit and the context of who you are (as a human being) based on the experiences, ideas, and perceptions you’ve gleaned from your past. Does it hold up for your purpose sometimes? Yes, absolutely. And, when it doesn’t stand up, give it another read, be curious, expand on it, and consider what you’d like to allow.

When you’re caught up in an exhausting description of what you’re feeling, do you feel wholly opposed to it? If you find it challenging to do this, if it’s hard for you, here’s a little trick.When you see someone who is clearly happy- or peaceful- maybe it’s a fellow writer, say, or someone you know. In that moment, ask yourself, “Am I caught in my story, or in the stories I hear (my own inner chatter) about what is true and what is false, what’s real and what isn’t?”

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